Sorry to hear about the tiff. I know what you mean about doing all the 'work' around the place, it is exhausting.
Is he actually resisting the idea of upping the dose, or is he too busy or lazy, or whatever, to do so?
Does one ever get off ADs?
You might point out to him that with a minor in the family needing lots of help and attention with her current problem, it is really important for both of you to be fully functioning and on the ball in order to help her.
Livnlearn
"The unexamined life is not worth living" - Socrates