Thanks Sia! There are of course exceptions, but I agree with you that most of our spouses took the easy way out. It's easier to cut and run. Yes, our burdens are going to be different than theirs and we should own them and move forward. We are not innocent victims in this process and even though this reality is not deserved by the LBS, our contributions to the breakdown need to be understood so that we can become fuller human beings.
I have sought help from so many places and adopted mentors to assist me, including this community.
You have also come a long way and take solace in the fact that it is just going to get better from here. After getting through the immediate effects of BD, everything is an upswing.
Love and hugs to you and your kids. Hope you have a happy holiday season and get some time to rest and have peace of mind.
