Gordie 22 eight months after she dropped the D

[DnJ]

Gordie, your year is certainly ending much better than it started. So is her’s.

What a great turn of events. Just keep slow and steady.

I know you know this, give thanks to Him, many prayers answered.

Does the possiblity of forgiveness seem more likely now?

Ensure to open your heart to miracles, ‘tis the season.

All the best, and a blessed Yuletide to you and your’s.

DnJ

[sjohns6]

Gordie, your post made me tear up. Long time coming. I know making love doesn't mean everything, but that kind of connection with the partner you have stuck it out for means a lot! Happy Holidays, brother!

[Westo]

Aww I’m tearing up here too. Your head must be in a spin.....

Baby steps, it’s the only way.

[AndrewP]

#TeamGordie

I personally believe that this "time of the rolling year" causes many to re-evaluate their choices. One battle is not a victory. The steady slog through ups and downs will undoubtedly continue.

With that said, I am very happy for you and your family for this Christmas miracle. And if you are hungry I appear to have made a huge pie but believe that DnJ is on his way with his crew to assist. I think it's only a 20 hour drive.

[DnJ]

Yes, the time estimate is about right. The numbers of pies required is a little low however. Ha ha

[Kyh]

Hi Gordie,

It’s been awhile since I posted on your thread but I follow along and I just wanted to stop by and wish you well. I’m glad to read you’re reconnecting more, keep up the good work!

[SBJ]

Gord...I am just now catching up. I have continued to pray for sudden changes in all of our situations. I'm not sure what you are truly feeling after your latest intimate interaction, but I do know that God works miracles suddenly. I am and will continue to keep you and your W in my prayers for complete and total repentance and reconciliation.

Stay strong my friend. I'm glad you and your family had a good Christmas...2019 is your year!!!

[Gordie]

Job: yes and unexpected and spectacular way to welcome Christmas



DNJ: yes at the beginning of the year I was headed for certain divorce and now at the end of the year wow

Yes, thanks be to Him and many answered prayers both mine and yours and Gerda and SBJ so many others

Yes, do I feel more open to forgiveness and reconciliation and miracles? Yes

And no it is not just sex it is w showing me that she is wanting and choosing me

After so much rejection and waffling

DB coach in the spring said to be patient and let her initiate anything physical

Make her beg for it she said which was hyperbolic but it made the point

And the truth is the first time was very very awkward

So awkward I did not know if there would be a second time

But she initiated again the next day and it was much much better

Yes there was still some awkwardness but the fact she initiated again boosted my confidence



Sjohn and Westo and SBJ and Andrew and Kyh:

Thank you for walking this path with me

It has been a very long and lonely few years

Yes my head is truly spinning

And I know there are still many twists and turns to come

But I view this as some sort of turning point

This was a very big one on my list of desired improvements

Thank you for being my constant cheerleaders

Always here with sage advice

And much needed empathy

Empathy that is only learned the hard way

[OneArt]

Gordie, you are like an explorer treading on uncharted land, not knowing what you will find. Some will doubtless be good, and some will doubtless be bad. But, you are strong and brave and have met the challenges you have faced in getting here. Revel in the excitement of the unknown, but keep your defenses ready. Keep reporting to those following your lead and being awed by your courage.

[Rita]

thanks be to Him and many answered prayers both mine and yours and Gerda and SBJ so many others

Yes, do I feel more open to forgiveness and reconciliation and miracles? Yes

Yes, so many prayers for you from me, Gordie. I wish you could see the church where I have prayed for you and your W. It is the most beautiful place.

And all this time that you were doubting more than you had before, I kept thinking that God was working in His own timing. And I am so happy that indeed, He was!

Even now, your surrender, your patience, your loving when you are/were daily rejected -- that is all God working through you, and it is a reminder to me too. As you forgave, God allowed you to forgive yet more. Surrender, trust. Surrender, trust.

You know I even showed my father your note to/about my son and my father said, "I totally agree with Gordie. Wise man."

(I am actually wondering why he didn't yet say the same about DnJ's letter but I think it's because he is 91 and didn't scroll down the whole e-mail. Which is another reason why Gordie's sparse style worked well. DnJ and I tend to talk it all out a bit more : ) )

XO to Gordie, the bestest of the best.