For all the LBS who got BD'd in 2018 and looking towards the horizon at 2019 and how they will be charging forward, let me offer some words of perspective.
I remember Dec 2017, six months post BD, looking towards 2018 and vowing to make transformations and make 2018 a momentous year for me. I have to say upon reflection, that life decided to kick me hard in the arse to make sure that I was not making surface level changes, but going deeper and doing the hard internal work. All my physical health goals didn't come to fruition due to injuries I sustained in early summer, but that allowed me to take the time to really work hard at understanding myself and open my focus.
I am a helluva better parent, co-worker, and person because of it. So, make your plans for 2019, but create the space for flexibility that not all things will go to plan and be adaptable and flexible, and keep your mindset right.
All the best to everyone! I know people are hurting and I was too a year ago. But against all of that, I have come out to the other side stronger, more grounded, self-aware, and understanding myself at a level I have never before. It will happen for you too - just put in the work and be kind and compassionate towards yourself.
I also want to express my immense gratitude to this community. I wouldn't have made it down this road without all of you. Thank you!
Here's to 2019 - may it be a year of personal reclamation, joy, useful pain to propel growth, emotional fitness, and clarity.
