Wanted to add another thought that I had and would like some feedback so I can understand this better.
This is my second marriage. In my first marriage, I was the WAS. We got together when I was 17 (she was 21) and had a child. She was physically and emotionally abusive towards me throughout the whole relationship/marriage. We separated (I left) and went to counseling and got back together, but I never felt the same, I felt like I didn’t feel ANYTHING for her. No anger or hate, I just didn’t care about her. After 8 months I left and we divorced.
So I’ve been on both sides of the fence (WAS and now LBS). I figured this would help me understand my W. But in my case, when I was ready for divorce, I didn’t feel anything towards my ex W. I wasn’t angry or resentful, I actually felt sorry for her.
So are women and men different? Is it normal that my W hates me so much she wants to divorce? Or am I a cold hearted person? I guess it doesn’t matter but I’d like to understand what fuels my W’s anger and rage...is it love underneath?
