I am glad that things are going okay. At least she's behaving herself and not acting out in front of the children.
Listen to what she has to say, review the decree and if you have concerns about some things, point them out to her and discuss them. Try to remain as calm as possible and keep your voice natural. She may try to push your buttons to get you flustered and angry...but do not take that bait! Stay calm throughout all of it and when you are done, take a walk or a drive and scream or do something else to relieve the anger. I have found that if you remain calm and do not show anger, it takes the "I've got him right where I want him" away from them. Don't give her the satisfaction of knowing that she's hurt you, especially at this time of the year.
Hang in there!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
