New thread- Newcomer pre-bomb drop

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Hi Bern,

prolly back off on the alcohol usage. I'm sure you know this.

With the phone, did she offer to let you look through hers, or was it just her wanting to look through your phone? I don't think you should have agreed to let her look in the first place. It's ridiculous.

I could actually see her switch gears and go on the offensive. She was the one that was betrayed because I spied on her.

Barf. She was betrayed? Yea OK.

She said ill never be able to trust her and that ill always be wondering. I said yup, so where does that leave us? She actually said I guess well have to see if either if us can get past this. No, really that's what she said.

OK, well I think this is actually true.

I also agree with what you said that you need to engage less. Validate, shut down those arguments, and move forward.