Re: Moving past the WAW to a stronger me Pt. 5

[Davide]

Happy Holidays everyone!

I completed an 11 hour drive a few days ago and am spending time with my parents over the holidays. It is a tough time of year because of all the memories associated with it, bu I am not dwelling on that. Traveling throws off my routine and I tend to eat poorly, sleep different hours, and get much less exercise than at home. It leaves me feeling off. The cold up here doesn't help much either! My brother and his husband will get in this afternoon and tomorrow we will see the large extended family which will be nice. I am not particularly close with most of them, but it will still be good to be surrounded by lots of family.

Dating is awkward during this time. Before I left last week I made a push to get out and see as many people as possible and ended up getting 5 dates in 7 days with 4 different people. Only one of the dates was a total dud, but none of the other ones had an instantaneous click either. Searching online can be depressing as well as there are so few interesting profiles, and only the slimmest margin of those ones even respond. It just feels like a long, long journey to building anything meaningful.

I had another set of text messages from the doctor who stopped seeing me a few weeks ago. I had gone two weeks without responding to any of her messages. This time I let her know that I liked her and felt like we connected but respected her decision. I also let her know that I didn't think a platonic friendship would work because I am looking for someone who wants to be with me. I was happy with how I handled it in terms of drawing my boundary and sticking to it rather than giving in to her desire to be friends. I feel tempted to hang out with her because I did enjoy her company and feel a connection, but I know it isn't healthy to reside in the friend zone.

Finally, I just want to thank everyone on here who has offered support, sage advice, and the occasional 2x4! I am where I am today thanks in large part to this community. May the holidays and the coming year bring all of you much joy and happiness and progress on your DB journey (wherever it may be!)