Thanks, Sandi, points well taken. Although this was completely unplanned, I'm am all about intentionality. Best to be prepared.
So change seems to be in the air. I'm not reading too much into this because I'm done mindreading, at least for now.
So W informs me that she is making a breakfast casserole for Christmas morning. For many years I have suggested that I make a breakfast casserole and W has poo-pooed the idea. I know this seems petty and trivial but it's kind of worth noting. These type endeavors have happened before when W decides to step out and take a creative chance. Last time it was painting furniture. I think it means she's happy?
Now get this. She asks me today if I mind if she invites her parents over for Christmas morning. I love my in-laws and said of course. This is very unusual as we plan to go to their house for dinner Christmas night. She also shares that she will be making Mimosa at breakfast. All wild stuff for the W. She as well as her family are people of ritual. Consistent and predictable. It is usually me that introduces something new and different. Anyway, all I'm saying is that something is different and it doesn't seem bad.
The continual respect and consideration continues.
M 53 W 54, M since 98 D15, D19 8/2013 discovered EA, W maintained contact with OM until 10/14 7/2/17 W said she wanted S, 7/25/17 moved out of MBR 12/17 W says moving out 5/18, W still in home.