Letting Go. Detaching. Done Engaging.

[ovrrnbw]

Did,

be strong man. She's going through some tough stuff. It doesn't give her a free pass to cheat or treat you like garbage, but I hope you can find your strength. I know you have it, with your athletic and competitive background. Stuff like this gets you down but it doesn't have to keep you down.

I'm in that same spot as you in regards to you wanting to ask the trainer chick out. I want to find a gal to occupy me and make me feel better. But I haven't decided to do that.

I can tell you're getting stronger and you're probably tired of making the same old mistakes. You did all those things for her to show her how much you care and she didn't respond. You have to look out for numero uno now.

I think you need to limit contact in any way you can, so that shared calendar idea is great.

Mentioned she definitely doesn’t have anything to do.

Believe nothing they say and only half of what they do. Usually when my W makes a statement where you would draw a quick, logical conclusion it means the exact opposite. For example, a couple days ago she made mention of how she doesn't get to use our house and she shouldn't have to be at her parent's house. Well, my liar W was at OM's house, and she is just trying to sow subtle lies to move the truth a little bit at a time.

If your W offered to watch your daughter for New Years, you could take her up on that if you wanted to go out. If not, take your daughter. I think you should decide for yourself there, and don't let what your W is doing affect that decision.

Overall, you just need to find ways to limit contact with your W so that you can move forward. Your W wants to pull your strings and call/text/instagram you all the time. Hey I want that t-shirt b/c blahblahblah, nevermind I don't want it. She's clearly not sure what to do about you pulling back. But this is what she asked for.