This should be the status quo until the sitch changes enough to re-evaluate.
This. She has to want you and only you. She doesn’t get to have your emotional support and she doesn’t get to push/pull you as it suits her. You are the man who is hard to get at.
Going dark/NC is super hard but...what else will work? Do it for your own mental health.
The only thing I wish I knew was how to tell “when the sitch changes enough to re-evaluate.” My guess would be when she comes back begging YOU to stay. So, you know, 1-2 years...right? Or Sia can you clarify?
Originally Posted by SoTorn
the goal is to limit your contact well under the threshold for where you start to feel a negative emotion from the contact itself.
Nicely phrases and that’s definitely the sweet spot in my experience. In my case that threshold was super, super low.
H: 35 W: 33 M: 11 T: 13
4/10/18: I discovered A and confronted ("BD1") 6/23/18: I moved out 8/31/18: MC ends ("BD2")
