I also noticed that you stated twice that you have "P-A tendencies." I do not know what that even stands for. Is this what you are referring to, being physically abusive?
He's talking about passive-aggressive behavior, which typically doesn't fall under the umbrella of abuse. It's more like getting mad about something and being super quiet (passive) and then suddenly getting angry over something completely unrelated, yelling about a towel on the floor or such (aggressive).
It's also doing things like giving the silent treatment. Or jokingly criticizing. Or sarcasm.
Those were my passive aggressive behaviors of choice.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018