Welcome! And congratulations on dodging a major bullet.
Seriously, I skimmed through part of your previous thread. A 26 year old who surreptitiously opens a credit card and runs up $3,000 while you're going through major health problems? She's not an adult capable of being in a real marriage. She's probably a princess looking for a "daddy" to care for her.
Your life will be much better going forward if you find a woman who is mature and responsible. Now mind you, that also means you have to share control, so that's worth looking at in yourself. This is a great time for self-examination so that you can avoid red flags AND be a better husband next time.
Want to know how things would have played out with her? Let me tell you a story about CMM, my current boyfriend. He was married for over 20 years (as was I). His friends warned him not to marry her but he ignored them. When I ask him why he was attracted to her then, he says she was "fun".
Once they had children she became overwhelmed with being a SAHM. He worked full time and did all the cooking and grocery shopping. She spent money and became an alcoholic. When the recession hit and money was tight she refused to go to work to help. She'd been raised with money.
Eventually he divorced her when his youngest was in high school and she was a three bottle of wine a day alcoholic.His daughters are estranged from him because they blame him for leaving and for financial difficulties that ensued when he had an accident and was out on disability 6 months after leaving.
Not to say he was completely innocent - he enabled her spending and was conflict Avoidant. He's also a little bit OCD and rigid. But he was a responsible family man and good provider who has almost nothing left to show for it. (And now has stage 3 lung cancer possibly brought on by loneliness).
So - consider yourself lucky, you have a chance to find a mate who can support you the way you will support them, who has shared values. Just take this opportunity to do the work on yourself.
