My WAS - looking help and thanks in advance PART 5

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I'm just upset this week Blu. I am done chasing this woman around. I am tired of being treated like hell. If she can't be the W I need, then she can't do it and we wouldn't have a MR worth having. That is hard to say, and hard to accept. But logically, it's true.

Not seeing her, not talking to her at all, not responding to questions - basically ignoring her...these are actions of "going dark", right?

But NC means I can respond to her questions, as briefly as possible. I was very upset, clearly, that she took off last weekend.

My opinion is that I need to not see or talk to her at all, AKA "go dark", for at least a couple more weeks.

It's obvious, I still want a MR 2 with her. I want her kind, caring self back. But the reality is she may never be that person, at least for me, ever again. So I let go of everything, and see if she comes back, and if she does, then I really lay down - and ENFORCE - the boundary. And don't settle for less.

Does "going dark" and ignoring her no matter what seem to harsh of an approach, or going "NC" should I respond to her questions? That's what I'm looking for here. But as of now I'm going dark for a week or two.

Also, on a very happy note. I've got a new gig lined up next year and my pay is going about 60% on the base and with commission/bonus could easily double what I'm doing now. So pumped to get after it come Mar 1!!!!!

And Did, thanks for checking in man. I'm in suburban, almost rural STL. Not close to the big big city like NYC. I got W as Xmas present too, but I'm not giving it to her either.

Merry Christmas y'all.