W just picked up D4. I really don’t see anything changing in our sitch. W asked who would have D4 for New Years saying she definitely didn’t have anything to do. I just said I didn’t know yet. Gave D4 some love went to cleaning up.

Anyway I’m going to do whatever you all recommend NC. DB. I’m pretty sure I’ll be scheduling mediation or talking divorce in a month. And I’m basically ok with that. It’s nit what I want but I can’t wait on this woman forever. I can’t make her want to be together and work on our relationship be consistent or unselfish.

She tried to make small talk about her friend / hair cutter and her car. And w hates small talk. I didn’t say much. She gave me this big smile and said bye. I just said cya. She doesn’t seem to get it.

Just focusing on me and moving forward. Planning not to reach out over Christmas. Will FaceTime with D4. Otherwise just ignore her if she sends pics etc? Right ? Thanks all. Happy holidays.


H: 33 W:32
M: 5 T: 8
D: 4
BD: 6/2017
MO: 6/2017
House sold: 6/28/18
W wants to build friendship / relationship- 9/18
Paying $ support since 7/18.
Physical Reconnect- 10/18
W Starts- IC / MC - 10/18