Wife in MLC, I think

[BluWave]

Thank you for clarifying, AS. LB55, I'm sorry I misunderstood and hopefully didn't offend you! It's shocking and terrible that she would completely fabricate all those accusations and really speaks to her mindset. She is really far gone right now!

I appreciate your explanation of passive aggressive behavior and it makes sense to me, as my H is a reforming MNG too. I can definitely see where he used to do the same things you describe. But I definitely believe that these traits can be changed. He has seen his ways and made several improvements in the last 3.5 years. I'm sure you can too! The No More MNG book helped him a lot. He still has his gentle and openness that I love, but he is getting better with saying no and standing his ground with his position.

Right now is just crazy for you and I'm sure you are anxious about your future. I just want to assure you that it won't always be this way and in a couple years things may look much better. Divorces can be messy and ugly, but it is highly unlikely any court system takes this sort of list as factual. My experience with the court system with my first D20 and an ex BF (her dad) was that no one was interested in any "he said, she said," and we were forced to agree on things in mediation. Unless she has a police report, restraining order, or proof of her claims, it's hard to imagine them holding much weight. Even then, family courts want both parties involved. If you want custody and show them the man you are, this should all work out in the end!

And please be careful when engaging in this sort of legal battle. Family/Divorce Attys make a hefty profit when there is a drawn out and contentious D! Both Attys profit more and more if the battle is long and complicated. Her L knows this and could also be taking advantage of her state of mind. Ultimately that only negatively affects you, your WW and both of your finances! And the end result might actually be the same. Minus $20-50K!

Blu