LB... it takes a lot more than one judge to read and close the case. You and your atty will write a formal response to her allegations and throw some at her too. Lawyers will talk, negotiate, re write,talk and try to come up with an agreement before any formal decree or order gets to a judge. Most states require mediation before court these days...as it help smooth the process and will save you both costs in the long run. Don’t be afraid of what your wife put on paper...it’s the first of many, many steps. Divorce is not fun...but it is designed to be a fair process. Unfortunately a very expensive fair process. As someone said to me when my divorce started.... “the heartache will subside, the financial devastation will last a lifetime”. Now, there was a thread of humor in that statement...so don’t take it literally. I recovered from a very ugly, painful divorce and custody battle. You will too! Try to take the emotions out of it and approach as a business transaction. The choice you make in divorce agreements are very hard to undo in the future. Don’t give in....fight for what you want. It may cost you more short term...but making changes is even more costly down the road.
I feel your pain brother! Hang in there and learn about the process to help calm your mind.
