My WAS - looking help and thanks in advance PART 5

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Ovr sorry for the pain brother. Let her fail. Let her be irrational or irratic. Be the lighthouse enjoy your picnic. I have Ngs as bad or worse than you. I assume my W is out on a date tonight. Then I have no plans the next few days and have struck out with everyone I’ve reached out to. Where do you live again lol? I don’t get D4 back until christmas night. So I may go to nyc or hit some trails. Writing a lot.

You are not responsible for her behavior. You are not the cause of her behavior. Let her feel rock bottom. Do everything you can for it not to affect you. I wouldn’t let her get away w some of the stuff. The computer cord is yours. Say no as much as possible. I’d go NC with limited contact if she’s in the house she is going to screw things up but set strong boundaries. She can not have you if she’s inconsistent. Take the call if needed explain if she gets angry or emotional the convo is over. My W is manipulative but I used to get the anger. I didn’t deal with it well. It always brought me way low. So I’m sorry for you.

Give yourself the love and focus on you. I am basically thinking I’m getting D in a month. Don’t see my w changing. Do everything you know how with DB for you. Take the focus off her and let her go. Don’t give her anything. You asked on my sitch if I had gotten her a christmas present. Yes I had but I’m not giving it to her. Good book called silence about introverts. Anyway cheers homey. Head up. Sending positive thoughts.