Do not leave the MB or the MBR or the MH. Are you in a fault state? That's important to have evidence, so cards, close chest any order.

I am tougher and harder on cheating than almost any other poster here, it's horrible and marks the end of an M. Of course there can be an M2.

Currently there are two views on exposing an A, yes and no. It's like being on a bus you either are or aren't.

If you are going to say you will call, it out if OM doesn't leave WW alone then you must do it. It's a boundary. And you did.

I do sense lots of ultimatums which if you lay them out then you will have to act or lose respect. So if you put yourself in ultimatums then follow through. I think boundaries can be stepped they don't have to straight to number 1 immediately.

This WW is truly wayward when she violates her home for a quick or not so quick screw. Frankly she does not deserve to be living in a home she treats as a bordello. Nasty, in a place her family have their family meals, just simply crummy in all ways. Skanky in every sleazy way I can think of when her children eat there. Nauseates me completely. Passive aggressive disregarding of her home and family life? Disrespecting at best.

You may find detachment with the emotion of disgust. Christmas or not, it's rotten behaviour. And there has been much of that here on this board.

What a crappy OM, sleaze bag of douche.

OK V: say what you think, why don't you?

Frankly nothing, nothing you have ever done is responsible for her choices which are skewed and way out. Honey it's all on her, every single lying word is hers. However this works out this isn't you, you can hot coal yourself and improve in every way but it's for you and your future. There are choices and hers is a dumb one.

And go get tested, make a point of it and let her know you have. STDs can rot your brain and nethers, it's not so good.

Go see an L, get to know your position on it. At the moment you are the stable one in the family, be clear she may lose her job if her work discover the PA, it's often the woman seen as the skanky one not the guy as the sleaze bag. One or other could be accused of harassment. It's no fun bag of wax.

Have the best Xmas you can have and as soon as possible stand firm on those ultimatums.

Enjoy your children and your Xmas to the extreme.

V

Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose.
V 64, WAW