Wife in MLC, I think

[LB55]

Passive aggressive behavior, I definitely do it. Never knew it until I looked it up and defined it. My best description is this. You want steak for dinner. You are cooking. You ask everyone else what their preferred dinner is, and they insist upon lasagna. You passively accept their choice, but are upset because it isn't what you wanted. So even though you are a really good chef, you make a poor pan of lasagna to punish them for not wanting your choice. This is the aggressive behavior. Thus the passive aggressive cycle. It builds a lot of resentment and is very unhealthy. P-A people tend to be procrastinators, never finish projects that others want them to do, they will say 'in just a minute' when asked to do something, then asked again, and again, until the asker gets mad at them, then they go do a poor job at the task(dishes, laundry, mowing, etc). I wish I had known all,this year's ago, it would have made a world of difference for my whole family.

w's mom is very passive aggressive. W is to a point too. She has tried to fix herself, but I am not sure she knows the definition of it either and certainly doesn't want to know now.