Wife in MLC, I think

[LB55]

Thanks all, I am definitely not one to ever physically abuse anyone, especially my family. I have never hit anyone in my life in anger, I don't even know what it would feel like. She is claiming emotional abuse. Those things where I 'intend' to hurt her with my words or my tone. She says that I drink way too much, I am puking in front of the kids, angrily flying off the handle at anything, I never say I am proud of her or the kids, etc. There was a time when I was drinking too much, I gave it up. It was easy, I wasn't an alcoholic, however I was drinking a lot. It was more of my way to relax in the evenings. If she had such a problem with it, why did she always make me a drink when I got home? Or teach the kids how to make me a rum and coke?

The near drowning incident was 5 years ago, we were at the community pool, wife and I were in the shallows with daughter, 3 at the time, and son 5 at the time, was pulled off the bottom by the lifeguard. Neither of us were drinking. She says I was negligent even though she was literally 3 feet away from me. I spent 2 days in the hospital with my boy, it was the worst two days of my life. He recovered and is fine, thank God. She says I continue to engage the kids in risky activities, not sure what, baseball, bike riding, roller skating, fishing, camping? I cannot be trusted with them according to her. It is ordered that I undergo psychiatric evaluation as part of the visitation agreement.

So frustrating to be drug through the mud like this. I sound like a monster in her write up. That I can only provide witness via written statement really hurts me. I am soft spoken, I am patient, I don't anger to the point of reacting easily. I don't react at all most times, I just eat it. I am so scared of the outcome here. Is all it takes is one judge that doesn't like what they read to decide the case before they enter the room, not let you speak, and close the case. Poof your kids are gone and you are a criminal.

This is so hard, living in a hotel, trying to get lawyers on Christmas, spending money like its going out of style, I am frugal guy, and don't spend much on frivolous things. All of this is so frivolous. Plus she says she has no money because see I prevent her from spending any with my words and her lawyer wants me to pay all her fees too. She has earned about $40k from part time jobs in the past 15 years. She hasn't worked much, and is now playing the poor me card and needs to have at least $6k per month to continue her life at the bare minimum necessities. I make about $8k per month and now don't have a place to live when I transfer back up here next month.

I hate this so much, the swath of destruction is getting wider by the day. I don't know that she will ever come out. I just found out today that when my daughter was born, I was gone on assignment, she refused to let my parents come over to the house and see the baby without supervision because she didn't trust my parents. My mom said it hurt them so much, and I knew their relationship was strained since about 2010, but nobody ever spoke of why. Now I know. So tough to take. 15 years down the drain in 3 weeks.