Uncertain of What I Have (Thread 2)

[AnotherStander]

/hooking my feet under the wire baskets under the desks REALLY help

Sure it does. That's why it's called "cheating" Unassisted butterfly situps will work your core more. But doing anything is certainly better than nothing!

I probably deserve a 2x4 for not calling her out on this in the moment, but probably not the thing to do in front of the kids and her mom.

Not really because that would have just caused a fight in front of everyone. But the real lesson here is this:

I know A/S mentioned this above, but yeah pretty much everything I do is wrong at this point.

Yup. So quit doing stuff that makes you a lightning rod. PULL BACK and give her TIME AND SPACE. You are around her way too much, and you are pursuing her way too much. You've already gone too far down the road to call off this "date" but let this be a lesson to you- NO MORE DATES. It's not helping your sitch at all, in fact it is hurting because it's preventing you from detaching and preventing her from getting the time and space to figure her crap out.

Afraid I’m going to get an R talk at some point Saturday night.

If you do then listen and validate. She may tell you she's filing divorce papers tomorrow. Just nod and tell her you will watch for them. She may say she hates you. Tell her you understand why she would feel that way. The point is, let her talk. Don't make the typical WAS mistake of promising her the moon, telling her how terrible you are and begging forgiveness. Be strong, not needy.

Sex? OMG YOU’VE GOT TO BE KIDDING NO, even though it would be nice, but yeah right.

You seem pretty fixated on sex in your posts. Like I said earlier, be patient. That will come with time. With her or with someone else. You can live without it for now. In fact it would be a good idea to abstain for a while to teach yourself that indeed, you can live without it. If you learn nothing else from all of this you should learn patience, discipline, and control over yourself, your body and your needs.