Kate

Death of a parent and turning 40

My w had those triggers too

In terms of his silent treatment

Remember two can play that game

Do what works for you

Stop doing what does not

If being cheery works for you then do it

If that hurts too much then stop

If avoiding him works for you then do it

If that is too inconvenient for you then stop

There is a lot of trial and error here

You are a strong woman

And you will figure out what works for you

He may or may not notice your changes

But that does not matter

Because you are doing it for you

My DB coach warned me w might not like my changes

And she was right

They want you to stay where you are and be predictable

Okay for you to be more mysterious and unpredictable

Okay if he does not like that

Gordie 40s W 40s M20+ kids
2016 BD W fantasy affair w OM1 I do everything wrong
2017 I start to DB W says TLTL files for D PA w OM2
2018 I do LRT W drops filing and OM2 situation slowly improving