R2C my W says the exact same thing to me when I try to discuss the problems I notice the kids have when they are at my house. Is your W coaching my wife?
I am sure they are:
Most of the scripts and horrible behaviors are found at :
marriagebusting.com forums
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712