I replied back with 'just to be clear, you are not letting me see the kids at christmas?' A loaded question, yes. I could have done that better, but I was very emotional at this point. This was all dec 7. On the 18th, she finally replied that 'you will be able to see the kids at Christmas, let me know when to pick you up'.
That was perfect.
Remember these words, They will help you:
"I am sorry you feel that way" "I need time to process what you just said" "I am not sure how I feel about that"
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712