I was literally laughing out loud in the car after having glanced at some of the comments. I love you guys (and gals) so much. I knew I could count on some good smacks upside the head, and y'all came through in a serious way.
It is so interesting how blind we can become at times in our own sitch. I probably would have chimed in with the same 2x4s in another person's sitch. I suppose it is progress that I can at least recognize my own blind spots. Known unknowns and all that. I guess that I always thought of temp checks as being more overtly manipulative, whereas I saw this as simply blindly self-serving. Perhaps that is a distinction without much meaning.
I am nothing if not a diligent DBer so I will simply let that conversation lie for the time being. I am sure that if/when we meet again to discuss finances she will bring it up again.
I was actually on my way out the door to a second date when I wrote here. She is a banker and had to push back our 1:15 lunch date to 2:30, then suddenly got called into another meeting at 3:15. So it wasn't much of a date as she left a half-eaten plate of food after 45 minutes. She also has two kids, so free time to date doesn't seem to be there. It's a shame because I think we share a lot of the same values. I am going out to dinner with a good friend from out of town tonight. Then I have another mid-day coffee date tomorrow with another lady, followed by an 11 hour drive on Saturday to visit family and friends for the holidays. So my GAL is going great.
I just need to brush this off and refocus my energies where they need to go. Live and learn, live and learn.
Thanks for the timely intervention, all!
Neffer,
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You are wonderfully detached so as to waste the effort you have done.
W 34 Me 42 Married 7 years together 8 0 kids 1 beloved dog BD 4/6/2018 I moved out 4/7/2018 I moved back in alone 8/05/2018 I file 3/06/2019 D official 5/7/2019
