You need to start DB hard man. I havent read up completely but is your W having an A? It sure sounds like it. When my W started getting heavy in the A, she dropped the "I want space, ILYBDLYAM" . But she would still argue about times, chores etc.
Detach, GAL. Set boundaries for yourself. W can't have both you and whatever else it is she wants whether it be A or grass is greener.
M:16 T:21 H(me) 38 WW: 38 S11 D16 D19 Red Flags of A: March 2018 ILYBNILWY: August 4, 2018 Moved out of MBR: September 24, 2018 BD/Confirmation of A: October 31, 2018 D Filed: March 27, 2019