Also, having been on the receiving end of personal comments from guys (mainly because I wouldn't give them what they wanted), I know from experience how darn hurtful they are...whatever the circumstances. 25 years on, I still remember some of them.

Me: 48, XH: 42
T: 18 years, M: 15 years

EA/PA 1: 6/2012
EA/PA 2: from autumn 2012-present

BD: 5/2013
ILYBNILWY BD & left: 10/2015

OW conceived: 8/2016
Born: 4/2017

H filed: 7/2017
D final: 28/12/2017