All I hear is forgiveness and acceptance and you are clearly setting him free seems like the cord is cut on your end-
I sincerely hope this will become an gentle process for you and your kids because all your work is clearly done to this point of letting go- and that the universe will continue to open doors to accomplish your D and set you free to really move on from this phase of your life-
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