Dealing with a WW Pt3

[Wanted1]

Validation is for her feelings. Not for the stories she’s telling. You don’t need to reply to those accusations. Stay away from her world. You need to stay on a higher level.

Keep DB ST. Protect yourself doing that. Detach and don’t give a f@ck!

Stay strong man! I know it’s hard but you have the strength.

Exactly. I validated her feelings. The stories I said I don't agree. She literally texted me saying "If you loved me you would protect me" aka don't tell the kids, don't tell anyone. I told her I would not lie for her, protect her or support her while she is actively disrespecting me.

Yes its hard. It seems like she wants to move out. I told her what i need to move out. If she moves out instead thats fine.

Yep, my WW got all concerned and angry when I've brought up telling people about her As in the past. Haven't done that in a solid 3 weeks to a month though. She doesn't understand that I'd be all for protecting her if she wanted to try to R and make the marriage work. I have no problem with that. I've done it the past 2 times! But, if she wants to move on and have her new life and D, I'm not covering up her transgressions, lying or dodging questions if they come up. She will have to understand that that is part of the consequences of her actions. I'm not there to protect her image anymore. I won't go around announcing it, but if I'm put in a position where I can either "protect her" or tell the truth, I'm telling the truth.

This truly is an amazing glimpse into the wayward mentality -- 'I don't need you for anything anymore BUT could you do me a solid and keep this between ourselves? I don't want anyone knowing I'm the one that destroyed everything.' This type of mindset is unbelievable to me!