HH, I so know what you're talking about. It is the approach itself that triggers the chattiness, not HOW you approach him. The only thing I found helpful in my situation is to cover his mouth with kisses when he started talking. That upped the pressure but it shut him up.
Btw, what is WITH LD guys and massage oil? I bought a bottle 2 years ago and it has maybe a 1/4 inch gone. He joked last night that he will give me a massage any time I like...well, first I have to ask, then remind him, then get pissy when he forgets or tries to back out, then wake him up when he falls asleep, then INSIST that I get it and get huffy, and then............THEN folks, Honey gets her back rub. Heavy, you might be able to relate to this since you just had a babe. Last night, my nipples were so itchy I was coming out of my skin (breasts get bigger, skin stretches and itches). So I told him before bed that I needed some cream on my nipples. When I got into bed, he inquired if I had taken care of it. I said no and that I thought he could hand me the massage oil (which sits on HIS nightstand, where I insist it stays, lol). He held the bottle and even offered to "tip" it for me but he would not participate. Within 10 seconds, he was snoring.
Now, I understand that not all people are turned on by the same things, but come ON. Here is my unadulterated, uncut thought: If he wants me to remain sexually excited by him, then he needs to attempt to be sexually excitING. I do not have infinite amounts of desire for him.
And you know what? I am not mad that he didn't want to join in; I am mad because he plays this pretend game in which he acts as if he doesn't understand when something is supposed to be sexual. This, he thinks, get him "out" of having to participate. I am going to call him on this.
Wow, I really got off on a tangent. You shouldn't have mentioned massage oil. LOL
