This is part of the reason why the D rate is so high because you are 7 months in and make this statement. That statement is insane 7 months in that means you haven't listened to anything anyone ha told you. Most people by the time they get here have done a ton of damage and most continue to make the same mistakes seven months in.
It will be 12 months since BD in a couple of weeks. It took me 7 months to just begin the detachment/DB process.
Originally Posted by LH19
I made that statement and I do not have the numbers to back it up. Based on my perception of being here for 4 years.
I'm a numbers guy. A google search tend to back that figure. It's up to me to not contribute to the statistic in my second R.
Originally Posted by LH19
No you can be detached and hold onto hope. As long as it doesn't effect you from moving forward in your life. I wouldn't say I hold onto to hope but if my ex was to come to me and commit to doing the work on my terms I would consider a reconciliation. It doesn't stop me from living my life.
This is the answer I am looking for. Thank you.
Originally Posted by LH19
Depends on what you mean. Progress in yourself? Most likely if you are putting in the work. Progress with W? Not if she is in an affair.
Both. Difference is that I KNOW I am making progress in myself. A lot of it.
When I found out the extent of her R to OM, I knew that all of the "progress" I thought I was making with WW was nothing at all.
Originally Posted by LH19
You don't believe it now but you will get to a point where you will realize that you are done with the BS and move on.
I am having no other choice but to start believing the ugly truth. And that stinks.
