In my old thread I posted that I asked my H what would happiness look like for him, since he says he’s unhappy. His answer was:
*he would do things he enjoys *he would go fishing *he would go hunting *he would take a long ride to another state on a whim *he would join a bowling league *he would take the kids camping (but then he said he missed that opportunity because they are now older) *he would build something
Can anyone answer this question for me...why isn’t he currently doing any of these things?
Oh this is easy to answer. Because of YOU. YOU are the one thing that's holding him back from truly enjoying life. YOU are the roadblock. YOU YOU YOU. This is how WAS's think. Their spouse becomes a lightning rod for every little thing that ever went wrong. They resent the hell out of their spouse, and can't wait to get rid of them to pursue their life of pure freedom and abundant joy. Eventually they get their freedom only to discover that all their problems are STILL THERE because their problems are not external, they are internal. Then they (hopefully) go about the hard work of addressing their demons. Either that or they pursue a life of escapism through multiple partners, free-wheeling spending, addictions and such.
