Heavy, Here is a challenge for you: Instead of framing your H's reaction in a negative light, how about seeing if you can frame it in a positive light?
That is, YOU interpret his chattiness as a way to excuse himself from sex, or turn you off. (btw, this is EXACTLY what I would think too, but I'm really tryin to knock it off) What if his chattiness could be interpreted as just general nervousness? I think that LD men, in particular, suffer from performance anxiety. After all, the LD wives can offer pity sex and then lay there and think of England as SuperDave likes to say, but the guys have to get themselves up to par and QUICK.
So what if his reaction is just nervousness that he's not going to be able to do that..and since he is working with a deficit of natural horniness, he starts to panic? I know I would be panicking in his place, if it were me. But then you calm him down and turn him on and he is fine. He realizes that he DOES have enough desire in him and everything's going to be okay.
I think that for guys like your H and mine, the thought of disappointing their wives is such a horrific and powerful thing that they avoid it at all costs. So if there is ANY inkling in their minds that they are not going to be able to deliver, they start making all their pre-emptive strikes. Then they calm down a bit and realize that oh, yeah, they can deliver!
What do you think of my latest theory on Mr. HH? Any truth to it at all?
