Divorce inevitable

[Gordie]

Hamburg

I feel your pain

There are some who are better fakers than me and can smile through the affair of their spouse

I could not do that

And it sounds like you cannot do that either

And that is okay

Only you know your boundaries

In reading the MWD book she talks about forgiveness being for you

For some like DNJ and Gerda that comes quickly

For some it takes a long time

For some it never comes

But a step in the right direction for you is acceptance

I feel how justifiably upset you are

So good for you for knowing yourself

Removing yourself from the situation

Going dark except kids and finances

Re your latest interaction

I would set up a time for you to see w privately

And set an agenda for yourself of things to discuss for the kids

Set expectations at zero

She may not be able to have this discussion rationally

But you need to discuss some things like not bad mouthing the other to the kids

And agree if she asked you to knock that you knock

It is her place now

And you have your place