Ok got it, thanks for clearing that up Lost and Steve. Last night I saw my SIL (to drop off some mail and my stepdaughters phone case). My SIL actually gave me some DB advice without her even knowing what DB is 😂.
She told me that for my W to realize what she is missing with me, she needs to see that she’s loosing me. Otherwise she will never value who I am. That I can’t go running every time W wants me to. I told her that is very true, but right now I have no interest in anything with W and that I am stepping away from the whole situation. And that isn’t a lie, I really don’t feel like seeing or talking to W at all right now. She told me that she understood and to take good care of myself and keep on with my plans and goals.
I don’t know if SIL repeats everything I say to W, I honestly don’t think that she does. But even if she does, it’s ok, it’s the truth. I know that it isn’t good to have these talks with her family but I kept it short and to the point and if W was standing there I would have told her the same thing.
Plan for now is to keep GAL, stay dark, NC, and detach. When she contacts me, keep it straight to the point and validate. I’d still appreciate any comments or advice, you guys are my backbone through this whole thing!!
