Blu nailed it. And I am struggling with exactly what she is talking about. Ring and piecing is hard and difficult. Much harder and difficult than divorcing and moving on. I don't think many LBSs get that. They think "I will make these changes, DB her back, and everything will be unicorns and rainbows." So not true.
If your goal is to keep your spouse, then you run the risk of reliving the unhappiness YOU as the LBS experienced prior to BD. Sometimes your spouse is giving you a "get out of jail free" card with their waywardness and infidelity, especially for those of us that are religious and believe the D is only allowed in cases of adultery.
As an LBS that's been my thought for a long time now, trying to piece back the destruction W has brought...seems like it would be total H and if lucky, the "R glue" would hold forever. Not that I want D, but moving on for sure seems like the most healthy thing I can do.
