Blu nailed it. And I am struggling with exactly what she is talking about. Ring and piecing is hard and difficult. Much harder and difficult than divorcing and moving on. I don't think many LBSs get that. They think "I will make these changes, DB her back, and everything will be unicorns and rainbows." So not true.

If your goal is to keep your spouse, then you run the risk of reliving the unhappiness YOU as the LBS experienced prior to BD. Sometimes your spouse is giving you a "get out of jail free" card with their waywardness and infidelity, especially for those of us that are religious and believe the D is only allowed in cases of adultery.

Too be honest, I'd rather live the rest of my life alone than go back to my MR 1.0 circa 2014-2017.

M(53), W(54),D(19)
M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017
Ring and Piecing since March 2018