It is going to take time for her to get to where she needs to be to talk. It may be when you least expect it and all that I ask is that you listen and validate. Right now, she is slowly inching her way along. It will take just as long for her to return to earth as it did to enter the time warp. It's better for things to go slowly because the healing needs that time.
You are learning to accept her for who she is at the moment and also your expectations are much lower, therefore, you can appreciate the little gestures that she's doing w/o much of a reaction. As all of the posters have pointed out, you will find your way out of that "stuck" position...but it will take time. You've had a lot of high energy stuff going on for a year or so and now that things appear to be slowing down, you feel stuck. Be patient and kind to yourself. Continue to do the things that you love to do. Keep the focus on your family and above all else...focus on you. Your wife is slowly returning. Dig deeper for patience.
Merry Christmas and may the new year shine brighter and be more promising for you and your family.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
