He is definitely out to lunch. He doesn't want anything to change and wants you to stay right where you are. The man isn't capable of making any decisions and waffles on just about everything. That has to be so frustrating. Maybe he filed because he thought it was the best move for him at the time? Maybe he filed as a way to get you to back off and he could do whatever he wanted w/o feeling guilty about it. I honestly do not know, but he is one hot mess after all of this time.
Have you thought about just asking him if he wants to come home? I know you probably don't want him back, but it might shock him back to reality a bit.
I feel for you. This is just a mess and you and your children can't continue to live this way forever.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
