This would definitely work for me. I like being talked to during sex, but it doesn't come very naturally to my H. I don't see this as a LD issue; he just isn't a very verbal person. So I encourage him in this regard by saying things like " Does that make you hot?" or "What do you want me to do?"
This can be a kind of tricky thing though. I had a boyfriend in college who stopped me cold by comparing my nipples to pencil erasers. It turns out he had never been with a woman with pink ones before, but I was really turned off.(LOL)
I know some of the advice I've offered for you HD guys has been laughably off-base, but I'm going to try once more.It seems to me that many of you are indicating that your LDW is uncomfortable with her own body and specifically her own genitals. Why not try explaining to her that to you her vulva is a fascinatingly beautiful thing, like a peony in bloom, something you just have to stop and stare at for a while and can't help but wish to touch.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
