Wow Nicole, the past few days your thread has lit up,huh? There is such great advice from various vets here it is amazing, I read thru a lot here and I know so much of it applies to me too. Just like you and so many others here, in a secret recess of our heart we want the MR saved, we want a remorseful spouse that goes back to their self that we married. But that is what it really is, just a tiny desire of the heart. Our realities do not reflect that, I have struggled like you analyzing how the saint of my H became an out of control wayward fool overnight? I am not the same person I was at BD, so is it so hard to believe the person we married changed so much? If the change is revered that is great but that’s not the situation right now. You know WH has put me thru all kinds of heck, as a mother you have despised his actions. Do you know what his only saving grace has been, that he did not abandon the kids completely (not yet at least), but your WH did that and more. He chooses to not see your D regularly andnit be involved in her life? We both know even at this age their minds are so sharp and our Ds are understanding all this their own way. Show her through your life that neither of you need him anymore , let her learn that you both deserve better by observing the conference mother she has. Before he can show remorse as a H he has so much to repair as a father first. Your heart is filled with kindness , he is misusing it according to me. I understand he is middle eastern, no culture teaches you to treat your W and D badly, in fact those cultures are more conservative of the family set up. He does not deserve you sweety
