Dealing with a WW Pt3

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ST, I believe you will get a lot of vets telling you that IHS is never a good idea. It prolongs the pain. I made the mistake of IHS for almost 7 months before I decided to leave the house and basically do a 3 day out/3 day in schedule. Basically, I would be out of the house three days per week while W and D4 stay at the house. Then I would stay at the house the other three day while WW was doing WW stuff. The 7th day is technically a family day but I make an excuse not to be at the house at the same time she is there. While it was not ideal, and still not fully beneficial vs. moving out it started to get the DB process off the ground.

Are there friends you can stay at while WW is at the house? Or family?

Unfortunately not. My dad said I can stay with him but he lives far. I may be able to ask my mom. She lives nearby. Idk. It's not concrete yet. I want to be off the mortgage at the house and I need the equity to get a fresh start. We have some savings the WW agreed I could use as well.

WW seems to be waffling on my request only after one day. It's odd because shes being nice now. I welcome the nice attitude even though I know it doesnt change or mean anything. IHS hurts badly. When WW is here anyway. I will be perfectly fine, planning my GAL and planning kids outings and I see her walk in that door and I get slammed with anger, resentment, sadness etc just from her sight.

Is this something you worked out with your W or did you just do it? Honestly she is usually gone for work, where she is with OM (but lies about it) for about a week at a time every other week. I actually find it much easier to detach when shes gone. But she doesnt see the DB because shes with OM. I enjoy her being gone. As opposed to the fact that when she was gone before I would be anxious, worrying etc because I knew she was with OM and she was lying out of her a$$.