Honeypot has been suggesting that I learn to talk with my wife during sex to help maintain contact. I'm still trying to figure this out ...
During sex, the main thing that is going on in my mind is how her body feels and how my body feels, and the feelings of closeness. Do you think running patter along those lines might be helpful as a way to maintain verbal contact during sex? "Your breasts are so soft and warm, I love to stroke your nipples...and feel them harden up...mmmm and can you feel me responding?" Or would that be overload?
That's at least something that I would know how to do (though I'm blushing just writing these sentences). In our marriage, talking dirty wouldn't work. Everything has a perfectly good Latin name, and my wife really wouldn't want to hear any less respectable aliases ;->
