LBS from MLC W

[SoTorn]

Liam. It's not worth the pain you will go through to pursue her. Listen to what everyone says here. These people have been to hell and back again. All WW/WAW act the same. It's like a script they read.

Yes it's very helpful that you can focus on yourself and be happy. Keep that up. But if you weigh each tiny experience alone as a positive sign you will hurt yourself emotionally by getting drawn in.

They dont just snap out of it. Focus on DB. Focus solely on yourself. It's very counterintuitive feeling to do it. You will want to jump at any sign of your old W. But you detaching yourself from who she is now will protect you emotionally, make you stronger and a better person. It "could" also draw her back in.

My WW was full on ignore mode. Like full in her room listening to love songs, I wasnt even a thought in her mind. I started GAL hardcore. I started getting the "you look good today, where are you going? Where were you?" Questions. She started cooking dinner again. She started coming downstairs more instead of just sitting in her room. My WW is still in her A. But she still isnt coming back to me. Shes just filling the void from me backing off.

I let go of my WW. Yes I still love her and will withdraw emotionally from her. But I have decided I need to move out. WW being here and her being in an ongoing A is a dealbreaker for me. It's too much disrespect in my face.

Since I told her I'm done and need to get away from her she has really picked up the communication and asking me why I want to move out etc. Its because I'm a huge convenience living here and when I'm here she can have her cake and eat it too. It's not because she wants me to stay.

I told her that actions are louder than words. Told her that even if she told me she loved me and wanted to reconcile it wouldn't mean jack because her actions dont match. Probably shouldn't have said that but she wanted to keep talking.

You have to let them go to get them back. You have to be ok with risking everything to get them back and accept that you may just be single.

If my WW started showing consistent and positive actions along with proving her A was over, sure I would probably slowly prod her to see if R was truly an option. I would love to stay married. But my W is gone.