MLC husband

[peacetoday]

Hi

sorry you find yourself here but welcome to the board- it is most helpful here

Hamburg gave some great tools for you to use

I could really relate to you and remember my XH doing some similar things
leaving the room when I walked in, getting fit, dying his hair, new clothes, being secretive, getting a motorcycle and staying out till all hours of the night while still living here in our home

You are right there is nothing much that can be done..
He has to figure things out-some will- many will not


please protect the credit cards, the bank accounts and watch finances carefully
they have little restraint and regard for money and spend like mad
some go into debt

Many will have affair partners usually a person who is addicted or has serious issues
they sometimes pick younger, a person with issues, psych problems ect.
women they can rescue-

some things that helped me cope were taking good care of me
getting and using a support group and therapist

we also tried M counseling and mine said the same that it would not help, and he was right--it did no good
sometimes a therapist may not understand MLC and encourage a Divorce

You may want to do a few consultations alone with therapist to see if they can be on the same page as you
don't let him pick the therapist-
they will choose one that will validate their cause

last thing for now
keep your kids safe-
the MLCEr becomes a careless parent and some get worse b4 better-


its a long road
keep posting and reading