I believe everyone has a good change at the beginning to turn things around. It is a huge task to seduce your spouse away from another person. It is not quite so hard to seduce them away from an EA. The easiest is to seduce them from a fantasy.
LB55, You have been given a gift, even if you can't see it. Take this opportunity to focus on personal growth.
Read as much as you can. It is important for you to be able to predict and respond appropriately to things coming at you in the future.
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
