Every day i think we are making progress. The latest episode in or reconnection is the committment that my H is showing towards it.
I bought 'Relationship Rescue' by Dr Phill McGraw a very long time ago, but i never read it. Recently H and i had a discussion about the needto start taking action and for both of us to feel that we are moving forward. When i was cleaning the spare room i found the book and i sat down and read it. It has alot of the same stuff as Michele's books, but it has a 14 day reconnecting program. H and i talked about it and we decided to give it a go. This really shows me how much H wants this, as i know how uncomfortable and how much he dislikes this sort of touchy feely stuff, but yet he is fully invovled in it.
I think, if nothing else, that this program will help me to bring down the walls i have around my heart. Help H and i bring about the intimacy that we both want.
Things are moving forward and i'm pretty sure that we're going to make it!!!!
Happy days!! I'm thinking that I might be able to post as a success someday!!!!
I am glad to see that you moved over here. I agree with Wonder, you are already a success story and I am so happy for you!
Quote: This really shows me how much H wants this, as i know how uncomfortable and how much he dislikes this sort of touchy feely stuff, but yet he is fully invovled in it.
This is AWESOME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Happiness is like a butterfly: the more you chase it, the more it will elude you, but if you turn your attention to other things, it will come and sit softly on your shoulder.... (thoreau)
I am very happy for you. You are definetely piecing together your M. A success story.
The fact that your H is willing to do Dr Phil's program with you shows his commitment to you.
My situation is still the same. Maybe worse. My W has decided to move out and live in our rental house. She asked me last Feb when it is free, she wants to move in. Last week the property was vacated. But I don't know when she wants to move in. She has to buy some furnitures first.
I will not help her unless she asks me. Otherwise she may think that I want her out.
I hope that my W can see a clearer picture after she moves out, and makes a right decision for her.
Well i haven't posted in a very long time, so i thought i should give you all an up date.
Things are going well on the home front. H and i are working hard and have had a couple of difficult days, but we are getting better at recognising when we need to take a step back from the action, so to speak.
It is about to get a whole lot tougher, however. I am in the navy and am going on deployment for 6 months, so pretty much H and i won't see each other. We are making plans to try and keep things moving forward during this time, but the reality of sep. is always more difficult than thinking about it. I often find that I'm alright but that H finds it very hard to cope. I realise that 6 months is only a short time out of our whole life, but H doesn't see that.
This time, though, he is putting safety nets in place and we have ensured ourselves that he has a good support network.
Just think of all the cool letters we can write!
Anyway, it is very, very busy at work and equally busy at home! But i love the pressure of it all and find that i give my best at times like these. I know that it's all going to be just fine.
What a difference a year can make!
I hope all is well with you and I'll try to check in on ya's!
Great to hear from you! Wow, do you sound fabulous! I'm so glad to hear that H has been working to create safety nets that will allow him to cope with your time away. That's wonderful.
I bet those will be some great letters. When do you leave?
I am sorry to hear that you are leaving, but you seem to have the right attitude...you can write lots of steamy letters signed with hugs and kisses!!
You are so right, what a difference a year can make!!
Happiness is like a butterfly: the more you chase it, the more it will elude you, but if you turn your attention to other things, it will come and sit softly on your shoulder.... (thoreau)
Thanks for the replies! I leave on tuesday, Raindeer, you probably have seen my ship in the news and in the papers lately as we commissioned in the city that we both live in yesterday. It was a great day! And we had a really fun night!
I'm busy trying to pack tonight, but i'm not really motivated to do it! I'd rather not!
Anyway, H and I have a a wonderful few days, had dinner to night and i was able to talk to him about my fears with this time apart and Him.
I'm very excited about the upcoming trip, but also rather nervous!!!
I don't know when I'll next get on but if youse want to email me my address is 29d@f155.navy.gov.au
Take care, and thank you all for you help over the difficult time!
I agree with Wonder, you are already a success story and I am so happy for you!
