imlost8, one of the things my W said throughout our sitch is that her feelings switched like the wind. One minute she was sure she wanted a D, but 5 minutes later her feelings has changed and she didn't want a D. This made it very hard to deal with her because am I discussing this with the 5 minute's ago WW or the 5 minutes later WW. Or a completely different feeling WW (there were times I got the impression that she wanted an open marriage!, so there was at least a third WW!).
This is why the best thing you can do is avoid all R talks. If she corners you, listen and validate. In the meantime work on your 180s. GAL like a madman. And detach. You will not make progress until you can get to the point where no matter what she does or says, it has no emotional effect on you. Work on that.
You can't control her, or her feelings or thoughts. You can only control you so go back to focusing on what you can do! (see above)
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
