W and I didn’t talk about her day. I didn’t ask, and she didn’t bring it up with me.
I’m not sure how I should feel about that. For me, it’s unusual not to ask about that, and I feel cold and uncaring not bringing it up—but I’m also sure that if it was / is that important to her, she would want to bring it up. Rather, it’s been me pouring my attention into the kids and our guests.
I also know that W is exhausted from today—from being up so early.
This may or may not help with detachment, and it may be nothing, but...I’ve been noticing the last couple of weeks a number of nights when W takes a shower she often takes a drink with her. Perhaps it helps her unwind, but it’s not something I recall seeing from her. A little bit ago when I was feeding our cat in the guest bathroom (where she showers), I saw a cider bottle in the trash. Not the only night where I’ve seen this, and I’m pretty sure she took a glass of wine in there last week. I guess for detaching I shouldn’t really care, but I kinda do....or maybe I’m reading a bit too much into this, and perhaps she just wants a drink where she can really be alone. Idk, man.
As a former alcoholic I can honestly say that this is a sign and symptom of alcoholism. Maybe one time would be anomaly, but this appears to be a trend. But yes, detach and give her the space she asked for. You shouldn't even be looking in the trash for "evidence".
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
